“do we think maybe a vegetable would cause less despair” still living in my head rent free
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my guardian angel (currently taking the form of Nagito Komaeda to try to get me to listen to him): Do we think maybe a vegetable would cause less despair” End ID]
sometimes I wonder how y'all are obsessed with specific characters and I’m like “why them” but then I remember that sometimes its literally not your choice you just look at them wrong and all of a sudden they’re taking up your every thought forever
Happy International Lesbian Day to eggs who are really sure they’ve thoroughly considered the possibility and definitely aren’t transfem (which is kind of a shame because they relate to a lot of their experiences and also love & appreciate dykes and wish they could fit in with them)
ultimately the problem is that it’s always phrased “aro people can still be in romantic relationships” and not “aros in romantic relationships are still aro”. and if you don’t get that then i can’t help you any further
writing tip: searching “[place of origin]ish names” will get you a lot of stuff and nonsense made up by baby bloggers.
searching “[place] census [year]” will get you lists of real names of real people who lived in that place.
I feel like I’m constantly shilling for them but BehindTheName.com, the only baby name site that doesn’t feel like it’s run by mommy bloggers, includes census-based graphs for dozens of countries/regions (though not all of them go back very far yet)
And you can expand them to see rank, number of babies, and percentage of babies and add a second name to compare. (in 1973 four percent of babies were named Jennifer! 1 in 25!!!)
Also this. Cursed.
@homoqueerjewhobbit what name did you search for your example, and what’s going on with Moldova?
Those are the graphs for Samuel. They only have 1 year’s data for Moldova right now, so that’s why it’s a straight line. Similarly, they only have 2 years for Mexico right now. The US goes back to 1880. I’m not sure how much of that is publicly available/translated records and how much of it is that it’s like 1 or 2 guys maintaining a website of 27000 names and a finite amount of time to format and upload.
You can’t advertise BehindTheName for writers without mentioning the advanced search! You can search names based on cultural origin and usage, gender (including unisex), meaning, and even things like meter and number of syllables, or famous namesakes (you can also see a list of famous namesakes on every name’s page, along with meaning, history, related names, alternate spellings in different languages, the above popularity graphs, and more).
I wouldn’t even call BehindTheName a baby name site. They have a surname sister site and a random name generator with tons of variables to set that is very clearly intended to be used for fictional characters (iirc it can even generate a cause of death? I haven’t looked at it in many years so it might have changed but these things predate generative AI so unless it’s been forcefully enshittified it shouldn’t be slop). Like, you can use it for baby names, but the website isn’t explicitly intended for that purpose. This website caters to us.
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Screenshot of a name search on BehindTheName.com, showing popularity graphs for various countries and regions.
Screenshot of a popularity graph for the name Castiel in the United States. The name first appeared around 2012, and was given over 320 times a year at the height of its popularity.
in real life you will probably not respond to harassment in a sexy, clever, scripted way where you come out with the upper hand and everyone claps. you will freeze up and your moment will pass, or your voice will shake when you tell them to stop and you’ll realize two minutes later that you’re gross and sweaty and sticky from the adrenaline. maybe you’ll be on the ball and answer in a way you actually think is pretty smart and get ignored, or they’ll get more aggressive when you mouth off to them. you almost never will walk away feeling victorious. you walk away feeling uncomfortable and relieved that it’s over. you’ll think about it later and imagine that maybe you could have said something else. maybe you’ll feel ashamed that you weren’t quicker-witted, weren’t able to cut them down to size, weren’t able to avoid that lingering sick feeling in the pit of your stomach, as though there’s some kind of magical words you could have said that would have left you feeling less powerless. there really aren’t.
Honestly this is such an important lesson to learn. If someone threatens, belittles, or verbally assaults you, you will likely feel bad, no matter how you respond. Please don’t beat yourself up for feeling emotions that are perfectly healthy and justified.
